Aristotle famously quoted - You are what you repeatedly do.
So if someone is repeatedly doing something which is wrong to the common eye, do we tag him as a wrongdoer?
Even if every time he does it he accepts that it is a mistake, but then goes on to do the same thing again, always promising that he would never repeat it.
And what if this guy is a loved one - someone integral to you?
How do you support him then?
Probably the real support that people require is not when they are just weak, but also when they are heading in the wrong direction KNOWINGLY. The question is how?
Do you allow them to stumble so that they can realize their faults or do you try to try tell them what you think is right - again and again?
Logically, the answer seems to be clear - let them take the fall once - let them feel it - and then let them finally decide.
But otherwise, if you know that the fall might be too much to handle, that the person may not be able to get up again - do you let them go on that dangerous road?
Again as I write, I feel that the answer is to let them take the fall and then support them fully when they are trying to get back on their feet.
But can we do like this - can I do like this - how do I let my best friend do something really messy....something which can have serious repurcussions on his life later.
I know the answer - but I myself am too weak to follow it.
I just hope that he safely comes out of all this.
if i were you, i will warn the person once telling him/her that the risk of what theat person is doing wrong as per my point of view...
ReplyDeletebut i can't judge the situation and feeling that person is going through that time and forcing him/her to take the step...
it's all about one's will to do or not to do...
yes but whatever it might be, i will stick on to the cause of friendship and try my best to give the person my support in whatever situation he/she is...
if that can not bring the solution to an issue, it will certainly make me satisfied of i did my part...and as said...
judge no one cause u never know what holds true for u might be false for someone else...
do what seems the best and most right to you..and remaining don't ever regret it...
Well what I would suggest is warn the person once, but if that person doesn't understand and you know what is happening is wrong .....keep watching the proceedings from the side lines if that person takes a fall then give him your unconditional support ....this is the only way i can think.
ReplyDeleteYou don't know the mental stress that person is facing and under which pressure certain decisions are being taken.....Stress can make the most rational person behave irrationally so this behavior is not something that can't be understood just persevere and am sure you will be able to help your friend get back to his old self. Don't overdo things ....listen and understand more .......